How to know when to walk away…

Firstly I’ll start with a little note, that I originally wrote this 3 maybe even 4 years ago. I had a relationship that started off absolutely amazing. To be completely honest it was my first real relationship, and the first and possibly the only time I have ever been completely and utterly smitten in love to the point where it literally engulfed me. And even now some of the memories from this relationship are some of the best memories I have. I may also add that I am still friends with this person as some bonds you create in life, will never be broken…saying that during some relationships it gets to the point where everything changes and that’s really what I want to talk about. I was reminded of this note I wrote down all them years ago when I found out one of my close friends was going through the same things as I did. So basically this is about that and knowing when it really is time to walk away. (Ok what started off as a little note, became a long one as I realised I had more to say about it then I thought…now onto the actual blog post.)

In life, we have relationships. Relationships with family, friends and partners. No matter who that relationship is with, it will go in waves. There will be good times and bad times…But there’s a clear difference between them. With family, you can’t really walk away from them. Because no matter what they will always be there, that’s what family does. For friends, sure we can walk away from them but it’s hard, and most of the time the problems can be rectified and within a week you’re friends again. But the one that’s the hardest is the partner relationships. Especially if you’re the one that cares the most. Your going to get hurt eventually, over and over again depending on how long you stay in that relationship. So eventually there will come a point where you have to be strong and walk away, because it’s got to the point where they feel like poison to you.

The hardest bit about this point is the mental torment that goes around in your head during it. When times are bad it’ll feel like your heart is repeatedly being ripped out of your chest, blended and then shoved back in there which is excruciating. But in between all of this there will be moments that are so sweet…probably just how they used to be, which will give you so much hope. Hope that things will one day be the same again, because deep down you love them unconditionally…and that’s the breaking point. The vicious cycle. Where you really have to think are the bad times over weighing the good one’s now. Of course it will be difficult at first, in fact forget that, it’ll be difficult for as long as it takes. Heck it took me over a year even after we’d split up, but that was because I didn’t completely remove myself from the situation and we were clearly seeing things differently. For him it was harmless doing thing we used to as a couple, but for me it was verging on manipulation of feelings. But anyway in long run you will without a doubt be so much better off, and some extent so much stronger for getting through it. What you’ve got to remember is that you aren’t the first person to feel like this and sadly you won’t be the last…probably even people close to home have been through a similar thing. Stay strong.

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Music and Men

The other day I was in my car driving for about an hour with the radio on. On the radio the station was going though a variety of songs from the lastΒ fewΒ years, when the realisation hit that there was a number of songs that linked to my past. To be more precise they linked to men of my past.

You see memories are a funny thing. When they are created they can be linked to the silliest things like a certain scent or a location…but for me it seems to be music. I listen to music a lot. So when I listen to certain songs, sometimes the lyrics seem to fit the current situation perfectly and therefore the song then links to that person…or it could just be a case that the song was popular at that time and the radio played it constantly while I was around them.Β 

Anyway like songs, men come and go through life. I guess it just depends if they turn out to be a one hit wonder or a classic that never gets old. But no matter what, when a certain song from the past hits my ears, the memories will play over in my mind of my relationship with that person. In some ways it’s good, and in some ways its bad…but memories are memories. Sometimes it’s nice to look back at what once was…

I wonder if anyone reading this knows their song…heck I wonder what songs people would link to me!

“The past is a good place to visit, but certainly not a good place to stay.”

Get your own life first…

Something new I’m bringing to my blog is that on Sunday’s is I’m going to post a quote. Sometimes I’ll comment on the quote…other times I’ll just post a quote for people to ponder over. So to kick start this, and because it’s valentine’s Day…This quote is about relationships.

If you are not happy being single, you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it.

I’ve spoken about this before, but it still is and always will be true. Too many people get into relationships just so they aren’t alone, and fair enough sometimes it can help. But a lot of the time that person just becomes too invested in the another person. So much so, that they lose themselves and become a shadow of what they used to be or even what they could be. They lose their potential a bit, the potential to be brilliant. In life we need time to ourselves, to explore and discover…so get your own life, then share it.

Heart Strings Songs

I don’t know if this applies to men, but us girls sometimes have days where we just like to rock out to all the sad love songs, that pull on our heart strings (hence the blog title). So this is a list of my favourite heartbreaking love songs…followed by a listΒ of ‘get over it’ songs… enjoy.

The heartbreak section:

  • Big Girls Don’t Cry – Fergie
  • I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
  • Perfect – Pink
  • Jar of Hearts – Christina Perri
  • Someone Like You – Adele
  • Total Eclipse Of The Heart – Bonnie Tyler
  • Somebody That I Used To Know – Gotye
  • Since You’ve Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson
  • Torn – Natalie Imbruglia
  • Hunger – Of Monsters And Men
  • The Scientist – Coldplay
  • Just Be – Paloma Faith
  • Nothing Compares 2 U – Sinead O’Connor

The follow up:

  • Break Free – Ariana Grande ft. Zedd
  • Ugly Heart – G.R.L
  • R U Crazy – Conor Maynard
  • Raise A Glass – Pink
  • Part Of Me – Katy Perry
  • What The Hell – Avril Lavigne
  • Love Yourself – Justin Bieber
  • Roar – Katy Perry
  • Forget You – Cee Lo Green
  • I Will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
  • Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
  • Best Thing I Never Had – Beyonce
  • Problem – Ariana Grande ft. Iggy Azalea