Music and Men

The other day I was in my car driving for about an hour with the radio on. On the radio the station was going though a variety of songs from the last few years, when the realisation hit that there was a number of songs that linked to my past. To be more precise they linked to men of my past.

You see memories are a funny thing. When they are created they can be linked to the silliest things like a certain scent or a location…but for me it seems to be music. I listen to music a lot. So when I listen to certain songs, sometimes the lyrics seem to fit the current situation perfectly and therefore the song then links to that person…or it could just be a case that the song was popular at that time and the radio played it constantly while I was around them. 

Anyway like songs, men come and go through life. I guess it just depends if they turn out to be a one hit wonder or a classic that never gets old. But no matter what, when a certain song from the past hits my ears, the memories will play over in my mind of my relationship with that person. In some ways it’s good, and in some ways its bad…but memories are memories. Sometimes it’s nice to look back at what once was…

I wonder if anyone reading this knows their song…heck I wonder what songs people would link to me!

“The past is a good place to visit, but certainly not a good place to stay.”

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Pet Peeves! 

There are many things in this life that I consider a pet peeve, however I won’t go into detail over them all. Otherwise we’d be here forever…so without further ado I give you my top 3 pet peeves.

  1. Judging others/Narrow Mindedness – this mainly focuses on hidden illnesses however it can be applied to other things. If someone walks different or acts differently or even messes up in a simple task. Think twice before you judge them. You don’t know if they have something wrong with them, or even if they’re just having a shit day, you don’t know. So think twice before you say something or even think about it, because one day you may be in a similar position and you might wish for the people around you to be a bit more considerate.
  2. Annoying People – these are the people who do things, just because they can and they know it will piss you off. These people are brilliant. One example of this oh so brilliant behaviour is when your standing in queue waiting to be served, and someone comes behind you and stands so close to (invading personal space) so that you move forward…because in their mind that’s going to get them served faster?! This also applies if your in a car, when they  keep moving closer and closer to you. (Between you and me sometimes I actually wish they would move too far and go into my car just so I can whine at them…but this is only on a bad days). 
  3. Rudeness – this is a generalised one. I like to call these people the ‘mood crushers’. These are people I meet a lot, due to working in a cafe. And sometimes it seems like they just feel the need to inflict sadness and annoyance on everyone. Pushing, complaining, being ignorant, ahh there’s so many options.

This is quite a negative blog post so I won’t go on anymore, but those are my three biggest pet peeves, and have you noticed what they have in common? People. I think this is why I like animals more… 

 

 

10 things that make me happy!

  1. Food. I love food, even when I’m down it can make me happy. Especially chocolate cake…with cream…and marshmallows. Yeaahhh. 
  2. Films. I have a huge obsession with films. All variety’s, even the occasional documentaries. I like films with information in too, so I can learn new things as I’m being entertained. So films about the war, or even the stock market interest me.
  3. Emoji’s. I’m an apple user, and one of the biggest upsides of that is the built-in emojis. I love them! I use them in most messages, to cheer people up or even to be cheered up. My favourite one at the minute has to be the skull 💀. Just because sometimes I have no response, or I like to show that I’m done with the conversation.
  4. Facetime. Linking to the previous ‘apple praise’, facetime is also a built in app I love. Sometimes just a phone call isn’t enough, and I like the feeling of hanging out with someone without being physically present. Especially when your either ill or just down.
  5. Coffee. This is a relatively new thing that makes me happy. Because although I’ve worked with coffee since I was 16 I never really drunk it. However recently I’ve been drinking it more, and it gives me a nice boost to start my day.
  6. Photography. I’ve always liked doing this, but recently I’ve begun to attempt making it more professional, I’m just starting out but for the minute it’s making me happy. So I’ll see where that ends up. Here’s a link to the Facebook page if your interested. www.facebook.com/NJOramPhotography
  7. Travelling. Although I have plans to travel, right now I’m only talking about Iceland. I’ve been to Iceland twice now and each time I fall in love. The atmosphere, the environment, the people, everything. In the future I genuinely think I’d move there.
  8. Driving. I know I’ve only been driving for a few months, but if i ever feel like i need to get out…my car is always there. Ready and waiting to take me as far as my petrol tank will allow it. It’s a permanent escape route.
  9. My guinea pig. I have a few animals in my house, but the one that makes me happy most right now is my guinea pig. I mean I love my cat to pieces but…I doubt he feels the same. But with George I can get him out and all he’ll want to do is cuddle. Which is perfect when you have a anti-social cat…
  10. Mitch Albom. I know I talk about his work a lot on my blog, and also throw in his quotes but the books he writes are just…brilliant. In a way he clears my mind, and I can’t wait to start the next one. My only question is who do I move onto after I’ve read them all.

WARNING! New Driver Alert!

I’ve been driving just over a month now, and I’m finally realising that what people said was actually true. You don’t really gain driving experience until after you pass your test. Sure you can know how to drive correctly. Pushing all the right buttons, at the right times. Checking your mirrors for overtaking, or just for people constantly on your ass. But once you’re in a car all by yourself, with no one talking in your ear…then and only then you realise what driving is really like.

I’m going to be honest with you the first month after passing my test was pretty scary. The first hiccup was the car. It’s an old car, with a difficult biting point. One which took the whole first month to actual master to some degree and understand what to do and when to do it. This led to my first embarrassing moment of being stuck on a tiny hill with no way of getting up it (at least no way for a new driver in an old car). I ended up having to reverse back down it after letting three cars go around me. Not the nicest way to ease myself into driving alone.

The second hiccup was lanes on new roads. I tried to push myself as fast as possible as I was already behind a lot of my friends in the ‘art’ of knowing how to drive. So I went onto roads I’d never driven on before in my lessons to get to the closest shopping centre that was near my home. Ahh which leads us onto embarrassing moment number two. Being stuck at the front of a queue trying to change lanes at the last-minute isn’t great. And with the number of annoyed drivers around you, staring at you in a despising way it doesn’t seem to make you feel better either. Luckily no one knew me.

The third hiccup was motorways. Now this has to be the worst thing so far. I mean overall it is just a straight route. The only thing that worries me is that the faster you go, obviously the worse off you be in an accident. Which is why I do my best to do everything right when I’m on a motorway. Abide by the speed limit, keep the right distance from other cars, and take care while changing lanes. But when a massive lorry decides to move over in front of me in the slow lane, after a late indication and leaving around about a 5 inch gap, it makes it a bit harder. And this is my issue. I can do my best to do everything right on a motorway, but I can’t control other people’s actions…and let’s face it…there’s some right idiots out there!

Ahh on the upside, I am loving being able to drive. The freedom, the opportunity, the control. I can go anywhere, whenever I want. So I guess this is the start of my life as a roadtripper…lets see where I end up…

Plans for 2015

So 2015 has begun, and a number of questions will have entered people’s minds when the hangover had passed on new years… What will be different this year? What do I want to achieve? How can I be better? I thought about this, and have decided to devise a list of my own plans or even hopes for this year.

1. Pass my driving test – This is quite a big plan, and has been in my mind for a while. But now my test is in sight…I just hope I’ll pass first time.

2. Buy a car – This is really only if number one goes to plan. Can’t say I haven’t already started looking though in excitement though.

3. Travel More – I’ve mentioned this in a few of my other posts saying I want to travel, and explore the world. So this year I’m going to attempt to go somewhere new every month, even if it’s just for a couple of days.

4. Get Fitter – This is probably on a lot of people’s lists every year (mine included) but this year I’m really going to push myself. Running, circuit training, cycling, yoga, anything going really…maybe even a tough mudder.

5.Blog more – Write about anything and everything. Try not to focus only on topics I have a lot to say about, but also just everyday thoughts. So be prepared for some strange posts.

6. Try my hand at short films – I have a few ideas already scribbled down for short films, so this year I will attempt to put these online if possible.

7. Buy a better camera! – I love taking pictures, mainly of landscapes and sunsets as anyone could tell from my Instagram. But this year I’d like to try a professional side of it, and to do that I need a better and more expensive camera. This of course would also be helpful while creating short films, so that’s definitely a must have.

8. Possibly start a business – This may be an aspiration too far, but I guess it will be a trial and error process. I plan to be more creative and because I love quotes so much I thought I’d try combine the two in some way. We will have to see though.

9.Be a better person – Last year I don’t think I personally tried as hard as I could have to be a good person. So this year I plan to try harder to see and speak to people I rarely see, to be kinder if people require help even if they don’t ask, and to just overall be more appreciative of the friends and family I have around me.

10. Find my way – This is the biggest one this year. I really don’t know what I want to do in life career wise. So I’m going to try everything that takes my interest. I won’t be following any specific paths…more taking opportunities that appear. Letting the wind blow me in any direction in other words. And I can honestly say that I’m excited for that. Trying new things, even revisiting past career options. Saying that…I know I may not find it this year, but I’ll try keep up hope.

That’s my main plans anyway, as well as just living life a bit better and more fuller. Maybe I’ll look over this post in a years time and see what I actually accomplished…

If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person. It’s how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit. – William J. Clinton