Get your own life first…

Something new I’m bringing to my blog is that on Sunday’s is I’m going to post a quote. Sometimes I’ll comment on the quote…other times I’ll just post a quote for people to ponder over. So to kick start this, and because it’s valentine’s Day…This quote is about relationships.

If you are not happy being single, you will never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it.

I’ve spoken about this before, but it still is and always will be true. Too many people get into relationships just so they aren’t alone, and fair enough sometimes it can help. But a lot of the time that person just becomes too invested in the another person. So much so, that they lose themselves and become a shadow of what they used to be or even what they could be. They lose their potential a bit, the potential to be brilliant. In life we need time to ourselves, to explore and discover…so get your own life, then share it.

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Single on Valentine’sΒ 

Ok so Valentine’s Day is upon us, and although this is a day/evening for couple’s to celebrate romances old and new…this post is mainly for all the single people out there.

Now even though we’re single, there are still ways we can celebrate Valentine’s Day alone..and the chances are that when it gets to the end of the night, we are probably feeling a hell of a lot more satisfied and relaxed than a lot of couple’s will out there. So to make it simple this is my guide to kick ass on Valentine’s Day! Just as a disclaimer I am no expert at being single, but I do know how to have a great night in…so let’s get started with my way to be single on Valentine’s day.

Ok first things first FOOD. I love food and the perks of being single is that you can eat whatever the heck you want, without having to consider anyone else likes or dislikes. Pizza, Nandos, Chinese, Curry…the possibilities are endless. Hey even if you can choose, you could just have a bit of everything. All to yourself. Another great reason for being single is that you don’t have to share with anyone! I could have Ice cream with pancakes for dessert and I could eat it all with no distractions. PERFECT!

The next thing on my agenda after I get food sorted is down time. You want to be relaxed and comfy obviously. So take a bath, light some candles, get a glass of wine (or whatever you like to drink) and just relax. No need to think or worry about what you need to do, or keeping anyone else happy. Just focus on you. Then after you’ve turned into a wrinkly prune get out of the bath and into the fluffiest, most unsexy pyjama’s you have and snuggle up on the sofa.

Onto number three, now by this point in a relationship you’d either be arguing or getting ‘down to business’, sooo let’s grab our hot buff celebrity crush and throw on a romcom. Filled with highs and lows including arguments, conflict, comedy, upset, nudity, and of course sex. What more could you want from entertainment on a night in alone? Basic but brilliant. On a different note if your not into films, why not read a book or even hop onto the Xbox and play a bit of Fallout 4 for that survivor/defender inside of you.

Ok so the night is coming to a end now…but maybe your feeling a bit unfulfilled still? wondering what to do with yourself before bed? How about….some internet shopping! Maybe you saw a top or a dress you wanted last time you went shopping, or even just fancy a little pick me up. The internet is there! With deals, and offers and overall pretty things to buy. So why not? Then after you can relax into a nice warm bed (with your electric blanket) and drift of into a peaceful sleep.

And there you have it! The day is over and you can go back to your everyday life, with the blissful memory of having a nice relaxing valentines with your one true love (you)! Anyway that’s just my perfect day. Feel free to leave me any comments or feedback about have you’d spend your Valentine’s day evening and I hope you kick ass.

 

Happy Being Alone

In the beginning in most cases we’re never alone. As babies, as toddlers, as children we aren’t alone. But then as soon as you become older, your left alone in the big bad world. Which is fine and nice but then after a while you begin to think about it. Are you happy being alone with your own company?

For some people this is quite easy, free at last in a sense. But for others it can prove to be hard. A few of my friends have gone from relationship to relationship and it makes me think, is it just because you don’t want to be alone? I mean I’ve been single for a while now, so yeah I can see the appeal of wanting to be with someone because your bored or yourself and want something different again. But then I can also see the other side of it.

For me when I first ‘fell in love’ that was everything. It’s was new, exciting…but to be completely honest I lost myself. I got so into the relationship that I didn’t know what it was like to just be me anymore. That was the hardest thing. Now I’m not saying I’m completely anti-relationship now because of it, but it makes you a bit more wiser I guess.

So overall I think what I’m trying to say is you need to be happy alone, so that you don’t lose yourself. I know everyone’s different mentally but for me that was something that happened, and it is hard to come back from it. But it’s a lesson to learn!

The best way to be happy with someone, is to be happy alone. That way the company will be a matter of choice…not a necessity.

Ass kicking…

In contrast to yesterday’s post, this is about something I think its going well right now. That, is being single. I know I can complain about being single…but I am in fact enjoying it. More than I used to at least.

There was a quote I used to think about near the end of my last relationship,”You can’t love someone else, until you love yourself”. That’s not to say I didn’t love my ex, because I did. It just means I needed to learn to love myself more than I did. I felt lost back then, I still do now but I think being alone has helped in a way. I’ve had time to myself, time to develop and improve as a person. So that the next time I fall in love (If I do) I can really give everything to that person.

So yeah, I’m happy right now. Being single is kicking ass πŸ™‚

Improvements…

There’s a lot of things I aim to improve on…and I could palm you off on a less personal one like my photography skills but I’m being honest and open this month. One of the things I’m focusing on improving right now is myself. Β A blog I wrote this month was about three lessons I’d like to teach my children…but for me to teach anything to anyone else,Β I have to be a better/more together person myself.

The main improvements always seem to lead back to one thing – finding myself. They say you can’t be truly happy until your happy alone. So I’m trying that. I’m alone…but I’m still lost. I think the problem is that I’m too alone. I open myself up to new people in some ways, but I never fully submerge myself. In a way I think that would help me. In a previous blog I’ve also mentioned about how complete strangers can help you find the right path you belong on, after being pushed around by the wind first. I think that’s what I need to try. So this is the first step to submerging myself to change for the better, and making a few personal improvements….so here’s to submerging and hoping to not drown…

My Letter…

Dear Someone,

Having to write a random letter reminds me of the time I had to write letters to my ‘friends’ on animal crossing…even though I knew they didn’t understand english normally.Β Being set to write a letter with no topic is pretty hard.Β I never really know what to say. I could update you on how life is going in Natalie World…but to be honest there’s not a lot going on. I’m still single which isn’t really a bad thing, as right now I’m not sure I’m really capable of giving someone else emotional attention (this leads me into thinking I may be becoming a heartless bitch). I still have a cafe job…which isn’t really where I thought I’d be at twenty-two. It’s comfortable and nice, but it’s not really mind-blowing. I still live at home, which again is nice because I like seeing them everyday but at the same time I miss living alone at times. My money situation sucks, I have things to save for, things to pay off, holidays I want to go on, a new car I’d like but nowhere near enough money for any of them. Trying to find another job sucks! Most places won’t take me due to no experience in the area, and I always feel like any jobs that do actually want me are a step in the wrong direction to where I want to be. And on the social side of things most nights I’d rather be in bed watching tv, than going out and getting drunk with friends…like a lot of people my age. I’m just stuck I guess, andΒ maybe set in my ways a bit in other areas. Not very interesting really…anyway until next time friend?

xx

My Zodiac Sign

I was born on the 16th of July, so my star sign is Cancer. One of the definitions for the cancer zodiac sign is…

Cancerians love home-life, family and domestic settings. They are traditionalists, and enjoy operating on a fundamental level. They love history, and are fascinated with the beginnings of things (heraldry, ancestry, etc.). The moon is their ruler, so they can be a bit of a contradiction and sometimes moody. However, they are conservative, so they’ll be apt to hide their moods from others altogether. They have a reputation for being fickle, but they’ll tell you that isn’t true, and it’s not. Cancerians make loyal, sympathetic friends. However Cancerians need alone time, and when they retreat, let them do so on their terms.

This was taken from the site: http://www.whats-your-sign.com/zodiac-signs-and-meanings.html.

I can actually see myself in this description quite a bit. I love being at home, and spending time with my family and offering support where I can…nowhere is like home. I am also interested in history to a degree, and would love to try to create a family tree at some point in my life…however I expect there will be some family secrets that will be uncovered deep down. On the lines of the whole hiding moods thing, I do this at times…sometimes without even realising. It’s just a coping mechanism overall. I’m not sure about the whole loyal and sympathetic part. I do try but whether I actually come across like this is a different thing, we can try to do something nice but than be portrayed in a different way. Then in regards to the final thing mentioned… I do like alone time, more so now then ever before…and sometimes if I don’t get it, it can start to feel a bit suffocating. Strange how a generalisation can be quite relevant at times I guess…